My young lover said I reminded her mother while we kissed … It was a great detour and I am thinking of leaving him.

Dear Deidre: My partner’s passenger comment while we kissed and hugged my stomach, and made me seriously think about leaving it.

Both excited us when he said he reminded his mother. To say that he killed the moment is a euphemism.

There is a significant age gap between us, but I want to be your partner, not your mother.

In addition, I have met his mother. It may only be nine years older than me, but it looks and acts as an old woman. I was insulted.

I am 41 years old, he is 28 years old and we have always had a brilliant sex life.

We have been very happy for nine months and made it clear that I loved me from the beginning.

See you most of the days and our feelings have grown over the months.

He would love to move with me, but my children are concerned, who are only 18 and 15 years old.

They get along with him, but I have concerns about our age gap.

He says I remember his mother because I make him love and safe.

He insists that he does not see me as a maternal figure. Even so, I am worried that we live together.

If it does not work, emotional agitation for me and my children would be devastating.

Are relations How does ours once successful?

Deidre says: There are many couples who have happy and lasting relationships, despite their age difference.

While the age gaps, where a couple is in their adolescence or early twenty years, raises serious concerns of a potential force Imbalan in the relationship, your boyfriend is about 20 years old and will have a significant life experience.

As for the futureThere are no guarantees in relationships. You can change the line. And, of course, also you.

Many of us attract us people who remind us of a father without realizing it, mainly because we find them comfortable and family.

It is time to clear the air and discuss her concerns with her boyfriend.

The main problem for age relations is when the couple is in different stages of life.

So talk about whether you want marriage and own children. These are important problems to solve before getting more involved.

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Reward scored with rugby friend

Dear Deidre: I knew that my fiancee got along with a close friend, but I didn’t think they would end up having sex in secret.

I am 29 years old, she is 26 years old and we have been together for four years. I met my friend through our local rugby team. My fiancee often comes to see our games, standing in the touch line that encourage us.

The two got along but nothing more. We have been talking about starting a family and determined about Christmas We would be happy if she became pregnant. But a short time later, he began to depress and bother.

I thought I had changed my mind about wanting a baby, but then broke in the tears and admitted that I had cheated on my partner. I was stunned, but she insisted that it was a stupid mistake and still loves me.

He has apologized on numerous occasions, but shows no real regret.

I can’t help thinking that if I really wanted to be with me, I would be begging for forgiveness.

But she refuses to talk about what they did.

I want to believe her when she says she will not happen again.

She has suggested that we have some separate space, but we surely need to spend more time together if we are going to overcome this.

Deidre says: They have betrayed you doubly, but your girlfriend does not seem to understand how shocked and wounded you are.

You are dealing with her infidelity, and also with the fact that she has sexual feelings for your friend.

It is possible to overcome an infidelity, but being separated will not solve anything. Are you suggesting having something of “space” to be able to go back if you have a change of mind?

She needs to commit to her relationship and assure her that this is what she wants.

At least, she owes you honesty. My Trap Support Package: Can you overcome it? It will help.

Baby hope is ignored

Dear Deidre: Despite knowing whenever I want more children, my partner continues with a vasectomy.

I am 34 years old and he is 35 years old. We have been together for five years. He already has a daughter of his previous relationship and we have a child together.

They get along together, but I would love that my son has a full brother.

I don’t like vasectomies because they go against nature. My partner only laughs when I tell him this.

It does not seem to value my opinions or my feelings.

I am in the pill, but I feel that he does not trust me enough to take it.

I love him, but he ignores my desire for another child. How do we overcome this?

Deidre says: While I understand your desire to have another baby, it would not be right to force this. It would not be fair to him or the child.

When a couple wants more children and the other cannot be a decisive factor. Does your partner really want the sniper? It is very good to talk about this, but going through it is a different matter.

Tell him that he has been denied that another child is deeply hurting him.

Ask him why he is so against the idea and make sure that a vasectomy is definitive.