Miss Manners: How difficult is, seriously, respond to a party invitation?

Dear Miss Manners: When planning a party, I am sure that many of us could agree that it is stressful to try to get a precise count of the head. How do you get people who invite you to respond in a timely manner?

Soft reader: an excellent question. Please let Miss Manners know when you think about an answer.

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Dear Miss Manners: My daughter married last June, and apparently has not yet written her thanks notes. She insists that she has a year to write them, and says that is what Miss Manners wrote.

I can’t find where he addressed this problem. So, please, could you give us your failure? How long after receiving a wedding gift has the happy couple who has to write their gratitude notes?

Soft reader: Ask her daughter to stop freeing Miss Manners. She does not count the extreme rudeness of ignoring a wedding gift for up to one year, and has declared it a thousand times.

Thanks must be expressed immediately after receiving a gift. But not to be too rigid about it, Miss Manners will allow 20 minutes for the recipient to find a pen and paper.